I'm disappointed in myself. A friend who has been very good to me since James died told me she is expecting her 2nd baby. My gut reaction was ouch - it hurt to hear her news & then came the jealousy - the pure unreserved anger inducing jealousy followed by a quick prayer that her pregnancy is a healthy one with a live baby at the end of it.
I had planned to visit a friend this weekend, one I met after James died, her baby girl also died 2 weeks before James & I have felt connected to her since. She is expecting her 3rd child in January & the thought of seeing her pregnant has me spooked - I'm not sure I even want to go. I know in the past I have given myself some slack & been gentle on myself when I haven't felt up to it, but both these women I consider friends, they are kind, patient, supportive women but I have a little hate born from jealousy in my heart.
If I could control my mind, I would flip the switch to elation & ignorance for both - maybe then I'd feel like a normal person again. Instead I am left uneasy about these terrible feelings, ones I hate myself for having & feel even worse for not being able to control.
I hope both will understand - I hope one day I will understand.